Well, I’m not quite there yet, but I do have some questions that I’m hoping someone can provide me answers to.
What does one going through a divorce do with their wedding photos? And wedding DVD?
I’m not entirely sentimental. I don’t have every letter or card my husband ever gave me. It’s weird, because now that we’re separated I find it harder to throw away stuff that he’s given me than when we were together.
For instance, he gave me a Christmas card. It was cute, not at all sentimental and perfect for me. And I felt absolutely terrible throwing it away with the rest of my holiday cards. I felt like I was throwing him away. Again.
Which brings me back to my original question. What do I do with my wedding album, and the other pictures I have of us and our time together? In addition to the album, there are other pictures from the wedding that were framed and placed around our apartment while we were together. Now they’re all in a hamper that I don’t use, in the closet.
Is there a service I can call – like those that they for homes that have been foreclosed on – that will come in and rid my apartment of all traces of him? The t-shirt he bought me years ago that has a giant (and I mean it takes up 1/2 the t-shirt) hole in it? I can’t wear it, not even to bed, but it meant something to us and I can’t get rid of it now. How about some of the cutesy little gifts that I still have lying around, that are really nothing more than dust collectors at this point?
I don’t think there’s any way I can bring myself to throw them away, but can’t imagine that I’m going to keep them forever, either.
So I guess I’ll just have to trust, for now, that I’ll know when the time is right and be able to close that final door.
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January 20, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Don’t know about you, but I tend to purge items gradually… except in the case of Dante’s father, when I trashed everything a.s.ap. But that’s a different story.
Two or three times a year I get the urge to go through all of my “stuff”, inluding old momentos, and I just get rid of the things that are no longer cherished. I usually get a few smiles out of the process, then toss it and move on.
Good luck!